What You’ll Hear:
Are you stuck in the past?
Letting our past mistakes define us is neither true to who we are nor show us the possibilities of who we can become or what we can achieve.
It’s true that we would be losing a great learning opportunity if we don’t learn from our mistakes, but it would be a great disservice to ourselves if we let the past define us.
We remain stuck in the past when we keep repeating over and over again the same actions that don’t serve us.
And the more we repeat an action, the better we get at it and the more our brain will believe it’s true.
I have met so many moms who tell me they’re not patient and that’s the reason they yell at their children.
When the reality is that when they began having children, they had not developed the tools yet to deal with their children calmly when they misbehaved. They yelled at them rather than disciplining with a calm tone.
I’m one of those moms – my thoughts were that I was an impatient woman. I couldn’t help yelling at my children.
When I Learned to Change My Thinking
For various reasons we decided to take the children out of school to homeschool them. We had a 4th grader, 2nd grader, 1st grader, K, and 2 preschoolers at the time.
The first couple of weeks of homeschooling I thought I had made the biggest mistake of my life.
I was yelling…. A lot.
And then, one day, I made a decision.
I created a new thought for myself.
What if I COULD control my tone while also firmly correcting my children?
Every day I worked hard at dialing back my reactions, keeping my voice in check while continuing to hold out high expectations for our children and their development in self-control.
I was also developing better self-control.
And guess what happened?
I became a patient person.
My past – of impatience – no longer defined me.
No Quick Fixes, but Embrace the Journey
It didn’t happen overnight, and there were certainly days when I would lose my cool, but they began happening less and less.
Learn from the mistakes of your past, but then let them go.
You can decide what kind of woman YOU want to be.
It’s all in how you think about yourself and the actions you choose or choose not to do.
It’s exciting to know that you can be who you want to be.
Just make the decision to commit to the actions to create the change and practice, practice, practice until your brain believes it’s true.
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