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How are you treating your husband?
Do you treat him better or at least as well as you treat stranger or acquaintances?
And if he and I were in the same room, I’d ask him the same thing.
How well do you treat your wife?
Sometimes we are guilty of being short-tempered, impatient, and sometimes not thoughtful in what we say or do, but we would never be that way with friends or strangers.
Don’t Take Each Other for Granted
You know the saying, “Familiarity breeds contempt”, well let’s make sure that we are nowhere near contempt for our husband.
As we become more familiar with each other over passing days and years, we can quickly fall into familiarity and take each other for granted.
We can begin to get into habits of a disrespectful or impatient tone or a lack of basic charity in saying please and thank you, and being thoughtful of each other – giving each other the benefit of the doubt.
Maybe we focus on what bugs us more than the person and the gifts and talents they bring to the marriage.
If you treat your marriage and each other with disregard, you’ll find it failing pretty quickly – maybe to the point of no return.
When you first throw out a towel in the ocean, it will float for a bit, but then as it begins to absorb the water it will sink.
Nurture Your Marriage
In the first years of marriage, we kind of float a bit. We’re living off the excitement of getting to know each other and a wedding and if we’re not careful, we may not realize that we’ve been thrown into the water and we’re beginning the descent to the bottom of the ocean.
Marriage takes attention. It requires us to make it our first priority.
I know that’s difficult when there’s so much pulling at your attention.
But it truly is your most important relationship – the one that the rest of your life should revolve around – not the other way around where your marriage revolves around your life and you give it attention when it’s sinking.
I’m pretty sure that both you and your husband can work on the way you treat each other.
Start by being honest with yourself.
How can you attend to your marriage better?
Work Together to Create a Happy Relationship
Then ask your husband for time to talk about this – don’t just spring it on him when he’s in the middle of something or late at night when you are both tired.
Let him know that you want your marriage to be the best it can be – and find ways to treat each other better.
Treat each other well.
Nurture your marriage like a good gardener would nurture and tend the flowers.
Don’t miss out on how great it feels to be married for 35, 50, or more years.
But it will only last that long if you each make your marriage your first priority and treat each other well.
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